How to be happy in life is a goal that most people have. This often leads to life habit changes. But what if the real secret to finding happiness is doing less.
I came across and instantly fell in love with the hashtag #2014in5words. I asked my Facebook friends how they would wordsmith their 2014 and I instantly saw what I tend to feel at this time of year. A tug, and a pull.
My friends shared a lot of joys (pulls) – books published, essays accepted, babies born, college kids flown, careers bloomed – mixed with a lot of sadness – tugs at faith, change, new, and difference.
Reflection on the cusp of change is hard.
This has been swirling around my mind and I’ve been reluctantly wrestling with it.
Why does it have to be so hard? I (internally) whined. I don’t want it to be. I (externally) announced. And with that I thought I was done with this season’s reflection + change. But, of course, that’s not the way things work.
Everywhere I look on and offline everyone wants to discuss their goals and resolutions and the whys behind them and I’m finding myself just as drawn into thoughts centered around #oneword2015 as I was to #2014in5words.
Yesterday, my instructor at the gym asked our class to share a physical goal with the person next to us. She’s magical and magnetic so we did what we were told. I was lip-servicing more than anything else when I turned to my friend and asked for her goals and shared mine. More gym time? Less food? Stronger? Leaner? Meh. Both of our ponytails swung as we turned away from the forced conversation and focused back in on our workouts.
When I got home, Jason and I tried to make plans for the week – who was working when, what outings would we go on, what did we need to say no to – and I felt that muddled indecisiveness that reflection + change leaves me with. “What do you want?” he asked.
And just for a second, I sat with that. Maybe it’s not as complicated as I think it is. Maybe it comes down to what do I actually want? At my core, at my happy place, what do I want? Or put another way, what do I love?
As Jason and I sat together and made these choices wrapped around who and what and when, I just kept coming back to what do I want, what do I love, and I aimed for doing that.
So my “goal” or “resolution” or “word(s)” is this: Whatever it is that you love, do that.
I told Jason what I was thinking and our decision making became quick and simple. No perseverating, no angst. When I paused and wavered, he added his “goal” to mix: One touch. As in life’s tasks getting taken care of with one touch. Decisions, choices, errands, appointments, phone calls – all completed with one touch (as much as possible).
I actually think our two thoughts meld beautifully. When we’re faced with choices – what do we love? Do that. And do it now.
Less stress, less anxiety, less second thoughts. More quiet, more giving, more of what we love.
Happy New Year, friends. May your 2015 be filled with doing what you love, with one touch.
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