Whatever It Is That You Love, Do That

How to be happy in life is a goal that most people have. This often leads to life habit changes. But what if the real secret to finding happiness is doing less.

I came across and instantly fell in love with the hashtag #2014in5words. I asked my Facebook friends how they would wordsmith their 2014 and I instantly saw what I tend to feel at this time of year. A tug, and a pull.

My friends shared a lot of joys (pulls) – books published, essays accepted, babies born, college kids flown, careers bloomed – mixed with a lot of sadness – tugs at faith, change, new, and difference.

Reflection on the cusp of change is hard.

This has been swirling around my mind and I’ve been reluctantly wrestling with it.

Why does it have to be so hard? I (internally) whined. I don’t want it to be. I (externally) announced. And with that I thought I was done with this season’s reflection + change. But, of course, that’s not the way things work.

Everywhere I look on and offline everyone wants to discuss their goals and resolutions and the whys behind them and I’m finding myself just as drawn into thoughts centered around #oneword2015 as I was to #2014in5words.

Yesterday, my instructor at the gym asked our class to share a physical goal with the person next to us. She’s magical and magnetic so we did what we were told. I was lip-servicing more than anything else when I turned to my friend and asked for her goals and shared mine. More gym time? Less food? Stronger? Leaner? Meh. Both of our ponytails swung as we turned away from the forced conversation and focused back in on our workouts.

When I got home, Jason and I tried to make plans for the week – who was working when, what outings would we go on, what did we need to say no to – and I felt that muddled indecisiveness that reflection + change leaves me with. “What do you want?” he asked.

And just for a second, I sat with that. Maybe it’s not as complicated as I think it is. Maybe it comes down to what do I actually want? At my core, at my happy place, what do I want? Or put another way, what do I love?

As Jason and I sat together and made these choices wrapped around who and what and when, I just kept coming back to what do I want, what do I love, and I aimed for doing that.

So my “goal” or “resolution” or “word(s)” is this: Whatever it is that you love, do that.

I told Jason what I was thinking and our decision making became quick and simple. No perseverating, no angst. When I paused and wavered, he added his “goal” to mix: One touch. As in life’s tasks getting taken care of with one touch. Decisions, choices, errands, appointments, phone calls – all completed with one touch (as much as possible).

I actually think our two thoughts meld beautifully. When we’re faced with choices – what do we love? Do that. And do it now.

Less stress, less anxiety, less second thoughts. More quiet, more giving, more of what we love.

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Happy New Year, friends. May your 2015 be filled with doing what you love, with one touch.

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  1. Happy 2015 and I hope it’s filled with all you love. That one touch thing is going to haunt me though. That is definitely not my strong suit.

  2. Beautiful and thoughtful Galit. Your words make question myself too…what do I love. Thank you for this. Wishing you and your beautiful family a wonderful and successful 2015.

  3. Both you and Jason have inspired me this morning with your desires and intentions. So beautifully delivered, as well. Thank you, friend.

  4. (happy sigh) Yes. Love, love, love, and love some more. That’s my goal for the year.

  5. Beautiful resolutions that meld perfectly. I struggle with resolutions that aren’t heart-based. One word resolutions seem to help me stay on track and it’s almost a filter I try and stream my life through.

  6. I needed to read this today. I was meant to read this today. Thank you.

  7. Do what makes you happy. I held fast to that for a time, and seem to have forgotten it. Today, thanks to you and some of my own reflection, I’ve come to a decision to do just that too – do what I love, what makes me happy. The one touch? Aspirational for now, realistic in a few months (years?). May 2015 bring you great allthethings, my friend. xo

  8. Happy New Year!
    Your goals do meld beautifully, and I think your resolution is fantastic. My word this year is “celebrate”, and I plan to do lots of it :)

  9. Yes! My husband and I had a similar conversation at dinner the other night. I am indecisive and it frustrates both of us. I have hard time deciding between what I want, what I think I should want, what I don’t want, etc. And I also don’t want to be bossy. I have been trying to just answer the question- what do I want? Without equivocating or overthinking it. And it’s working- so much better. I love the one touch idea- my husband will too. Great things to think on here- happy new year!

  10. Galit, if you discover the secret to “do what you love,” can you share it?

    To go with an old meme, I think my word for 2015 is “less.” 2013 ended with a ton of job insecurity — I didn’t know what I’d be doing, and the job I knew was driving me crazy, so 2014 started with me just trying to keep my head above water. 2015 starts with a job that I’m enjoying a lot more, and I’m actually taking time to look into my life . . . and I’m going to try to enjoy what I have as much as I can . . . which means, I think, having less of what I have, so that I enjoy what survives the purge all the more.

  11. I love the one-touch concept. We also should remember that what we decide to live by on Jan. 1 might not fit Sept. 1. Or hell, even Feb. 1. Every month, I reassess my priorities and processes. Sometimes, there’s call for big change. Other times, it’s just a tweak. Either way, it can evolve.

    It’s kept me from having 12 months of regret at a time. At most, I get 31 days.

    This is a beautiful post. Reflection on the cusp of change *is* hard.

  12. Yes! Do what you love and do it now. It is so perfect and a beautiful way to decide and do and live. I cannot wait to see where these things take you all this year!

  13. Love this so much! Sometimes we can make things way more complicated than needed, right? I love your thoughts for 2015. Happy New Year to you and your sweet family!

  14. Yes to this mantra. Do more of what you love – what wisdom in this phrase. Happy New Year!

  15. Such wise words!

  16. Perfect! I have resolved to waste less time this year, which I believe ties in with both of your goals as well. :) Happy 2015, my friend!

  17. i am so looking forward to getting back to doing things that i love, with those that i love … in the pursuit of happiness and simply letting the rest of it go. i cannot change what i cannot control, so i will just take care of what makes me happy.
    i love that you discussed it together, that your ideas comes together … such a great fit – like your hearts xxxx

  18. Exactly! Five simple years ago I would not have been able to wrap my heart around this. I didn’t know what I wanted. I do now. I am doing it. So yes, exactly! My word of intention this year is YES.

  19. Yes – do what you love. It can be that simple, right? In a similar way, my word this year is joy. I want to do things that bring me joy, that fill me with joy. I always love reading your words Galit.

  20. What a gift to have a partner with whom you can decide together how to do things. I agree – doing what you love, what you want – it is so freeing.

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