1000 Voices for Compassion #kindnesswins

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Right before my 35th birthday … I began to write for someone else.

Right before my 36th birthday … I gifted myself this blog, a place to write for myself, a place to stand on my own.

Right before my 37th birthday … I saw how much that gift meant, still means. I realized I could write out loud. I told others that they should, too.

Right before my 38th birthday … I began writing for other outlets. Taking chances. Letting more people see my words. Learning how to take their feedback in. Forming a tougher skin, a new perspective—don’t read the comments, that’s not part of this gig.

Actually, that’s a lie. The tougher skin part, that is.

Earlier this year, at right about 38 and a half, I wrote an article about marriage and the comments that came in on it were about my weight. I didn’t slip on the tougher skin or the new perspective. I got sad.

Because that’s what happens when people are unkind.

A few months later, I edged closer to 39, and I wrote about the experience. I stood up for myself and for kindness and I said something really obvious: Be kind online. That article went viral.

And then I wasn’t by myself anymore.

Once I spoke up, people magnet-ed to my side. I received emails and notes and texts and letters all saying variations of the same three things I’m sorry you were sad; I believe in kindness, too; What can we do?

This is what compassion is. It’s feeling someone else’s pain or hurt or sadness and wanting to do something about it.

It’s why mothers of tweens and teens still sway when they hear another mother’s baby cry.

It’s why we offer to hold that baby and give her mom a break.

It’s why we buy bread for the person ahead of us in line because they forgot their wallet or ran out of cash and it’s why we buy coffee for the person behind us in line to let them know they’re not alone, that this world is kind.

It’s why we speak up for ourselves and for others.

When everything happened this fall, it was that What can we do? question that stuck to my ribs. What could I possibly do?

Soon after, when my girls hinted that they’d like to post, tweet, and share photos on Instagram, I took a look at social media with new eyes–mom eyes. And suddenly I wasn’t just seeing unkindness that could happen to me, I was seeing unkindness that could happen to my kids, and to yours.

So I took to my pen again I and wrote (and wrote and wrote) a book about the conversations we need to have with our kids–and with each other–to teach our kids how to be kind online.

I found my “what can I do.”

My book is called Kindness Wins and it covers ten habits to directly teach kids as they’re learning how to be kind online.

I believe with every fiber of my being that our kids can do this. They can be the change we all know we need to see, and to feel.

A small publisher took Kindness Wins (and me) on and the fact that it happens to be available for pre-sale less than a week before my 39th birthday and on the same day that 1000 bloggers are writing for compassion, well that can’t be a coincidence, can it?

Because Kindness + Action = Compassion.

That’s what this movement, and my book are both about.

So right before my 39th birthday … This is what I’m choosing.


Speak up when you see something unkind.

Listen when someone else speaks up.

Learn to look at things from other people’s perspectives.

Do this before you speak, and before you post.

Train your eyes and your heart to notice if someone else is hurting.

And listen to that stick-to-your-ribs voice that’s telling you to do something.

Yes, you.

Tell other people what you’re doing.

And the ones who magnet to you, keep them close. 

Because together we can choose to not just let kindness win, but to ensure that it does. #kindnesswins #1000Speak



kindness-wins-cover-smallYou guys, a book! About kindness! Written by me! I’m over the moon to show you my cover, my words, my work, my heart. Please take a look. It’s officially on pre-SALE today at a discounted price (It will stay at this price until just a ‘lil bit after its official release date, April 7th.). Start here: Kindness Wins.




1000-speakTo write about compassion, to flood our online world with goodness, and to find other like-minded people, join the voices of #1000Speak. You can write anything you want about kindness, about compassion, about action, and link it up, read the others, spread the love. Yvonne Spence is the BrainHeart behind this movement. Join her and the 1000+ who are doing the same. Start here: 1000 Speak.



Kindness matterFor a reminder why this topic is timelessly important, read my friend Kristin Shaw’s article, “Does kindness matter? (My grandmother’s legacy of love).” Kristin shares the wisdom passed down from her grandmother to her mother to her and, now, to her young son. Her words are breath taking, and inspiring. Start here: It’s nice to be nice.



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  1. I’m so sorry that you were the victim of online bullying but WOW did you ever turn that experience into something positive! Thank you for sharing your story and your advice with the world through the #1000Speak community! And congrats on getting published!

    • Thank you for all of the above, Jen! I can’t tell you how much it warms my heart to know there are so many hearts all standing for the same message! Pure. Amazing!

  2. Congratulations!!! I love that you took something painful and turned it into something beautiful!! Can’t wait to read your book!

  3. Yay – Congrats! And yes, kindness + action = compassion. Can’t be missing the action part. Congrats again!

    • It is all about the action, isn’t it? Thank you for the words and support and encouragement — they all mean more to me than I can express!

  4. I shall tout it from the rooftops my dear friend xxx

  5. I came to know you through Kirsten Piccini (oh my how deeply beautiful amazingly fantastic is she). I started following you on instagram and I visit here every once in a while. Each interaction, each moment I feel lucky to be touched with your beauty, your message, your words, your energy and your insight on life. I am so very happy for you and this book. So much so many of us can relate to and a bigger, braver, kinder choice in acting and treating others. Congratulations!!!

    • Oh Carrie, thank you so much for this. I love that our thread is Kir — I adore her, too. And your words, my goodness, your words! They’re beautiful and lovely, yes, but also kind and generous. Thank you so very much for them. I’m so happy to be connected to you!

  6. I love this and I LOVE YOU!!!! Congratulations. I’m so happy for you, just sitting here typing and smiling because of your news. I can’t wait to read your book.

    • You are all that sparkles. Thank you for being my friend, I can’t quite tell you how important that –you– are to me! LOVE YOU right back (in all sorts of caps!) xo

  7. Brava, beautiful spirit, brava!

  8. So incredibly awesome! xo

  9. Such amazing news!! Congrats! What a perfect topic and I love all the goodness that will come from it. Well done, Galit!!

  10. Galit, So proud of you and happy for you.

  11. wow! amazing story! What a way to turn something so cruddy just completely for the better. You have such great points throughout this. I am going back up now to check out the book… what a great topic! OK… also gotta say… that puppy… awwwwwww….

    • Oh Ivy, thank you so much for this note! It means the absolute world to me!

      **And, ohmyheart, I know! His name is Parker and I’m not sure if he could possibly be more spoiled! So. Cute. <3

  12. Mimi Sager Yoskowitz says:

    I’ve been following your blog since I learned of it during a HerStories class last fall. Your writing is amazing and beautiful! This piece, your book are all so inspiring! Here I thought you were an older woman far wiser than I, but now I see you are a six months younger than me woman, much wiser than myself. : ) Thank you for sharing your important message and wonderful words!

    • Oh Mimi, it’s so lovely to meet you! And I’m so happy that HerStories is our connection–how very appropriate is that for two writers?! Thank you for all the kind words, every single one means the world to me!

      And you should know how LOUDLY I laughed at “Here I thought you were an older woman” –that’s so FUNNY! I’m thrilled to know you and am so, so happy you’re here! <3

  13. I think that it is beyond incredible you took a moment that could have broken you and turned into something that made you.

  14. I’m beyond excited and happy for you Galit. I am in awe of how you took that moment and turned it into something so powerful and meaningful. xo

  15. Congratulations, Galit! This is awesome! So happy for you and thrilled that you are sharing your insight with others. Such an essential message for all parents! Brava!

  16. Wow that is cool that your book came out the same day as 1000 Voices Speak For Compassion. Congratulations!

  17. Congratulations, Galit! I love how your vulnerability manifested in a way that will have a lasting impact. Looking forward to reading your book.

  18. A quick note, Galit:

    You. Are. Beautifully. Gorgeously. Sensationally. Imperfect!!!! xx Love from Duluth.

  19. So touching and profoundly beautiful. It made me weepy. Congratulations on your book! Amazing!! And your words are an inspiration to all of us moms out there trying to teach our children to be good, kind-hearted, compassionate little beings.

  20. I can hardly wait to read this book! I’m thrilled that you are releasing this, and the world needs more of YOU.

  21. Wonderful post. I read on another blog a little while ago “compassion is making it better” and I think you did just that. You saw what had to be changed and you made it better. Way to go! You’re an inspiration.

  22. Oh, so beautiful, Galit. It pains me to read how people reacted to something you wrote. Hugs! I admire you for rising above it and am hoping to read your book! Wishing you lots of happiness and love. You are such an inspiration!

  23. Congratulations on the book! Perfect release date! :)
    Glad you took the negative comments in your stride and wove this beautiful positive book!

  24. I happy that something good came out of something so totally unkind and unnecessary! Loved the post shared!

  25. Hi Galit,
    Great post and I’m so excited to be a part of this project myself. Great tips.
    Here’s a link to my post:
    Before my husband went to bed, he said to me: “You aren’t planning to read all 1000 posts before you go to bed, are you?” Well, we’re not quite there yet but I’m going to do my best to get through the lot.
    Best wishes,

  26. My people, my tribe. KINDNESS KINDNESS KINDNESS.

    SO thrilled for you, friend. Such a wonderful book and not just for parenting. For every day living!! So happy for you!

  27. Oh Galit! I’m so very excited about your new book!!

    We need more kindness in this world. Thank you for actually doing something about it.

  28. What a lovely little post! Online bullies are just as much a menace (perhaps even more of a menace) that bullies in IRL. They are twice as vile because they feel they have a certain amount of anonymity coming from behind a computer screen. How much better would this world be if everyone simply did their best to be kind in all ventures? Now I shall go off and ponder what I can do to make that hope a reality.

    Thank you so much for the insight! :-)

  29. This is an incredible post! I find it inspiring that you could take an unkind moment and turn it into something so powerful. So many things in this post speak to me. I’m glad to have found you here and you now have a new follower! Thank you so much for being part of #1000Speak. I am looking forward to hearing more!

  30. SO, so, so ridiculously proud of you and excited for you. Just preordered the book! This is HUGE, my friend! I’m so thrilled. You are an inspiration. xoxo

  31. Congrats! Very excited for you and proud of you! Xo

  32. Beautiful, Galit. I had to come by because I am pretty sure it was you who added me to the FB group, and I’m so glad you did.

    I’m finishing my words but my heart got caught up in them and so I took a pause.

    Congrats on your book! How amazing and wonderful for you. <3

  33. Yes — when I was a bullied kid I needed those magnets so much. As an adult, I’m so grateful both to have them when I need them and to have the chance to be one for others.

  34. I am SO truly elated for you, Galit! And I think this book is going to be extremely well received because this is SO needed in this day and age. (I sound like my mother with that last phrase, lol). Anyway, congratulations, all your work and effort is paying off!!! XOXO

  35. Of course you did… This book… it is perfect…

  36. Congratulations on taking some negative experiences and turning them into something so positive.

  37. You, my dear, have managed to take something useless and turn it into a utility product for millions around the globe. What an inspiration you are!

    I wish I could say that the nastiness you were served should not have been there in the first place. But I also believe this, all of us, we need a breaking point to emerge into who we really are. Once we have broken that mould, we are ready to be the person we were destined to be. Maybe this was your metamorphosis. But more importantly, I love the fact that you combined your action with kindness and found your thing to do. May we all get this lucky in our lifetime.

    Happy birthday in advance and rock the book sales. Good luck!

  38. Kenya G. Johnson says:

    Congrats to you on Kindness Wins! That’s very exciting. I almost started to write a similar post about about how people respond to comments, particularly news articles. But I counted articulate my words to bring a post together and I had never experienced it for myself. Knock on wood.

    Happy early birthday to you!

  39. Wow, talk about “turning that frown upside down!” Yay YOU!!! I am a firm believer that the universe does indeed conspire to do some amazingly wonderful things in our lives. Congratulations on your book!

  40. What a wonderful (though terribly sad) story! What a great example of the need in the world (everywhere) for more compassion! What a tremendous approach of the wrong you took! What an outcome! What a way to set it right! :) You turned something truly bad into something truly good and beneficial to others! I love this post, Galit … and can’t wait to read your new book! Congrats … and thank you for the wonderful example and inspiration!

  41. Beautiful post, Galit! Thanks so much for sharing, and for turning that negative experience into a positive experience. I truly believe that everything we experience in life, good or bad, makes us who we are, and for many, those experiences open the door to their life’s passion. Sounds like that’s what it did for you! Congratulations! Like you, I wrote a book about bullying, and added racism, women’s issues and diversity in 1900 Puerto Rico. The novel comes out next month :) I worked in social services for many years, which helped me write the book. Best of luck with your book! And thanks for visiting me today!

  42. Loved reading your post! Congrats on your book! Kindness indeed wins..

  43. Congratulations on your book!

  44. Oh I’m so so excited for you Galit! Congratulations on your book – what an important topic. I’m just thrilled for you! And yeah, that tougher skin thing is so hard when it feels so personal (even though it’s not because who would be that cruel if not from behind a keyboard?).

  45. I’ve been cyber-bullied too, more often than I care to admit. And you’re right, it really tears one’s confidence down. But I have to say how happy I am that you treated it an opportunity to teach the world about kindness and compassion.
    And congratulations on the book! :)

  46. It’s hard to imagine anyone turning your beautiful words into anything negative. So happy to hear, though, that you’re turning the tables and spinning their negativity into something positive.

  47. Amazing article. I love the way you write. I want to be able to pass on this idea of compassion and kindness to my kids as well. I’ll definitely be looking out for your book!

  48. Great article! I like e the way you write. I want to pass on the ideas of compassion and kindness to my kids. I will definitely be on the lookout for your book.

  49. I can’t even think how I missed this in February – except there were just SO MANY posts! 😀
    Like so many other here, I am so sad that happened to you (what is wrong with people?) but so glad to know that you’ve turned it into something so amazing. Best!


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